These bottom lines for children are best left alone
These “bottom lines” for children are best left alone
Bottom line 1: Some shameful problems Some “shameful problems” young children are often very sensitive to “defects” such as bedwetting, because they feel that these defects can make them lose face in front of their peers.
Therefore, neither parents nor kindergarten teachers should mention them in front of their friends, let alone ridicule and sarcasm.
Bottom line two: Some mental disorders: Young children are often more sensitive to mental illnesses such as autism, depression, and ADHD that they are or have suffered from.
If adults often hang on their lips, it is not conducive to the recovery of the disease.
Even if the disease has been cured, often mentioned in front of the child is tantamount to “shortening”, which is also not good for the child’s mental health.
Bottom line three: Some past mistakes and some insignificant “previous mistakes” in the adult’s eyes will also cause some children to suffer for a long time. As long as someone mentions them, they will have the pain of being exposed.
These “past faults” may include: a game won the last place, a performance smashed the pot, a picnic went out of the picture, and even crying as a child.
Bottom line four: corporal punishment: corporal punishment such as beatings, scolding, and being punished for standing is often a painful experience for children, “because they are not memorable” because not only the flesh suffers, but also the soul may be traumatized.
Even though the child has rarely been subjected to corporal punishment, frequently mentioning the past “history of humiliation” in front of others will still make him extremely embarrassed and difficult to extricate himself.
底线五：身体缺陷 如平足、色盲、矮小、过胖、过瘦、眼小、脸丑等生理或身体上的缺陷，尽管是“明摆”着的，但如果大人时不时提及也会使The child is frustrated.
Even if it is a long time ago, such as skinny at birth or an ugly “little old man”, it will make children unhappy.
Bottom line six: The lonely little world. Young children often value their lonely little world and regard it as their “private territory.”
If parents often “check” in their “territory” without their children’s consent, it is also a blatant violation of their “privacy” in their eyes.
Bottom line 7: Saved “private house money” Although young children do n’t love money and do n’t know how to manage money, if parents often “settle” the “private house money” that their children save, or even take it for themselves, children will feel their ownPrivacy is not respected and protected by adults.
Canadians generally believe that respecting and protecting young children’s “privacy” is, in essence, respecting and protecting their self-esteem.
In daily life, every word and action of an adult in front of the child must be “filtered” by the brain. Do not inadvertently “reveal” the child’s “privacy” in the mouth of the letter, causing the child to lose his self-esteem and cause his psychology.Serious negative effects.